True Intimacy

Recently, I've noticed more and more men who feel that they don't need to share themselves with their woman in order to have an intimate relationship. What I mean by that is that when these men are feeling low, going through stress or other emotional issues, they refuse to tell their women what is wrong, leaving the woman confused and feeling helpless. Although I understand that many men feel it is a man's job to deal with those situations on their own, often the woman feels as though the man doesn't trust her, or doesn't want her close enough to them to help them through their struggles. It leaves the woman feeling like an outsider, instead of part of a team.

So what causes this belief? What makes men feel that they should at all time keep their sorrows to themselves, and keep the women in their lives away from it, despite the woman's desire to help? I've seen it more and more, and though I understand men's reasoning, I feel that it is a major way to increase the intimacy and closeness in a relationship. When a person knows that their significant other is there for them, both in good and bad times, there is a special bond that is created that strengthens the relationship. Men and women process stress differently, but by internalizing all of their hurt and stress, aren't men then becoming colder and more distant from those they love? Feeling that one must carry all of the burden on their own cannot be a good feeling. But more often than not, this isn't the case, and by getting the pain out, a person can begin to heal. I'm not a therapist, these are just the random thoughts of Ms. ChiGyrl...